Embrace Failures

When they thought everything is going to be hunky dory and it's just about achievements.
It was about the survival and holding on!

Let's embrace Failures as they make you the hardest and the unbeatable fighters.
Cheers to Failures :)

https://inc42.com/buzz/failure-resume-nearbuy-founder-ankur-warikoo-important-lesson-us/

Deva Anand Sir.

At this moment, I don't have any words to express how it felt to go through this man's interview.
I am a Millenial, I never saw any of Deva Anand Sir's movie. So, I don't connect with him or recognise him as I know other stars.
But, he gave this Interview when he was 80 and all things he mentioned makes life so much meaningful to me.

Life changed a bit for me :) 

Me zindagi ka sath nibhata chala gaya,
Har fikr ko dhuye me udata chala gaya.
Jo mil gaya usi ko muqaddar samajh liya, Jo kho gaya me usko bhulata chala gaya.

The power of Gratitude.

Someone told me a fact, which says - 
Our brains are designed to mourn over losses more than they celebrate over victory. That is why losses affect us more, make us feel more belittled than successes and good events make us feel uplifted.
And so we usually think how everything bad has happened. But, the truth is life has been fair!

Be grateful for amazing things you are surrounded with.
Be grateful, how good events just happened to you. C'mon you have many of them.

I can quote Balaji Vishwanathan here,
"We are here as a life form through an amazing stroke of luck. And we became humans by an even bigger source of luck. And our ancestors survived ice age and near extinction with luck. We perfected agriculture on the back of a lucky break in global climate. And we were lucky to born into privilege allowing us to read this post without worrying about bombing above or landmines below.

As Newton put it, everything we see is by standing on the shoulder of giants - who built the language, logic, writing systems, laws and structures needed for us to learn in the way we do now.

Rather than being arrogant of what we accomplished, we should surrender ourselves to the sheer wonder of the Universe. Rather than being closed to new ideas, we should gawk at the sheer wonder of the Universe and keep our eyes and ears open."

Once you know, you are the luckiest and most privileged in many ways, rather than being grateful if you feel devastated for that one thing which didn't go your way, you are doing something wrong.

I am grateful for everything in my life :)
I completely believe in the power of the Universe. If something didn't happen my way, it's okay! I'll wait as I know the Universe has best plans for me and my plan didn't impress the Universe much :P 

Critics, This is for you.

I am someone who deliberately chooses to not say anything to the critics as criticism is not at all new to me. The best way to deal with criticism is to keep doing your work and let your work say everything!

But, again that takes time.
I was going through this answer of Balaji Vishwanathan on quora, where he has covered exact points that all the lovely critics need to know and understand!

I highly recommend this answer to everyone,

Read Balaji Viswanathan's answer to How was Balaji Viswanathan's overall experience attending the Global Entrepreneurship Summit 2017 held in Hyderabad, Where his Invento's 'Mitra' is launched? on Quora

Meet my ladies.

Sometimes you come across some people and you go totally "WOW". For me beauty really never mattered and I am in no way saying this to sound politically correct, I find every human being absolutely and stunningly beautiful, I mean literally believe me or not.

It's the personality, courage, attitude that makes a person for me to be more interesting. And today I'll tell you my list of these amazing ladies. (In order of the time they entered my life)
I'll not tell what everybody already know about them. See them through my eyes.

1. Sushmita Sen.

This lady is diva in a true and natural sense. Have you ever seen her eyes when she talks ? For her "genuine" is the word. Outstanding confidence, dignified, strong, opinionated, full of love.

                          

2. Gauhar Khan.
Confidence, Self belief, she carries herself really well.
                                     

                                                     
                                       

3. Sanjukta Parashar.
IPS Officer from Assam.
Confidence, daring, actually I am short of adjectives for her. It's better to read this once and you'll know why I said so.

                                   

4. Soumya Sambasivan
IPS Officer - Sirmour, Himachal Pradesh.
One of the most soft-spoken people I know. At the same time on-duty courageous officer who cracked down many cases in just few days. See a brief of her work in her interview.
                                   

That's AWESOME!!!

A letter to my duffer Brother.

Dear Dushant,

I have this very clear memory of little me sitting in front of God for days and nights asking for only one thing - "Please give me a little brother", I don't clearly remember why I asked so, maybe I didn't have anyone to play with. And you were born. So, technically your birth is an answer to my prayers and thus you are HIS gift to me. 
I know sometimes I completely ignore you, don't give you much time and go with a dry conversation. It's all my mood. And I go on doing this because I know you'll understand me and you do! 
We are more of friends and share almost everything but I choose to behave responsibly when I am around you because I can see many things from childhood you have directly adopted from me and it's my responsibility as an elder sibling to make sure whatever you get from me is the best.
I'll be always standing by your side no matter what.
If you do something good, I'll be applauding you and if you do something wrong, I'll be the first one to slap you. Hope you remember that slap :P
My advice for you would be - Don't change, your version of living life is awesome. Be a strong person, don't ever give up!
You are more closer to our parents than I am and it's a good relief for me. I am very sure you are going to have an AWESOME life :)  

काय होतय मला ?

हे काय होतय मला ? चालण्याचा प्रयत्न करतीये पण चालू शकत नाहीये, खरं तर चालण्याचा प्रयत्न सुद्धा करत नाहीये कारण समोर कुठली वाटच दिसत नाहीये.
समोर धुकं आहे आणि फक्त शांतता. मी हि शांत आणि पूर्ण जग शांत झालाय अचानक. असं का झाला असावं ?
कश्याची पण भीतीच राहिली नाहीये, मी फक्त शांत उभी आहे, पुतळा झालाय माझा.
खूप वेगाने धावत धावत इथे पोचले , जरा वेळ विश्रांती घेईन म्हणून डोळे मिटले, पण आता बघते तर काय, समोर काहीच कसं दिसत नाहीये ?
मला पुन्हा वेगाने धावायचय, पण कुठे धावू ? 

मी भूतकाळ आणि भविष्य काळ सगळंच विसरून वर्तमान काळ मध्ये रमलीये का ?
जर हो, तर हे चुकीचं आहे का ?
वर्तमान काळ थोडं जगायला लागलीये, जरा हसायला लागलीये, ते निरागस मज्जा करणारं माझ्यातलं बाळ जिवंत होऊ पाहताय आणि मग, मग येतीये ती भीती, खूप काही गमावून बसण्याची भीती , मागे राहून जाण्याची भीती. अस्वस्थ करणारी शांतता आहे हि. 

खरं सांगू एवढी शांतता नाही आवडत मला. 
होईल ना सगळं ठीक, दिसेल ना मार्ग ?

The time I got Anxiety attack.

It was around 11:30 in the night.

My exams are going on and I took a break from studies and just watching some random video on Youtube and suddenly I started feeling restless which soon grew to feeling scared and my heart just started pounding, I mean my heart beats were beating very fast. More than my heart I am feeling afraid that too without any reason. I thought let's try to calm down, I might feel better in few minutes. But No, now with my increasing heart rate, I started loosing my breath, trying very hard to breath. Now I knew this is getting worse and I went to my friend's room and she called other friends in her room and all were trying to relax me. Now even my throat was feeling choked.
I was in this situation for almost 15 mins. that means 900 seconds. My heart never beat this fast for this long.
 They decided to call our college Doctor in hostel. The Doctor took some 15 minutes to arrive, till then I was feeling better. He came and checked my pulse rate and said now everything looks normal, you are totally fine! And he just confirmed - "You are taking exam stress."
I was like - "No, I don't have any stress right now, exam stress toh bilkul hi nahi."
But still he was in no mood to listen me and said - "Exams are not everything, relax."
And I was - "Hmmm.."

But, he said - You should still go to the BIRLA hospital (the city hospital) and take other doctor's opinion.
I told him - I am feeling fine now and really no need to rush to the hospital at this time (it was 12:15 by now) and also my friends will be coming with me and we have exams tomorrow, I'll go some other day may be.
To this he - "See, again you are worrying about exams. You should go the hospital now."
The hostel warden agreed and I had to go to the hospital.

My college arranged a mini ambulance(college facility) and me with 2 friends, one lady guard and one chemist left for the hospital in ambulance.
After some 5 mins, the driver started Emergency alarm of the ambulance and I was like - "Am I dying ? Do we really need that ? And it was 12:20 in the night and no traffic at all."
Suddenly I was feeling special :P By now I was feeling well.
And as we enter the Hospital area with that alarm, hospital staff was ready with a stretcher and I was like - "Wtf ?"
And I got out of the ambulance totally walking normal, the staff was standing their as if someone pranked them and I hope everyone would have been wondering - "Who is the patient ?"

And we see a Doctor there, he too says everything is normal now and ARE YOUR EXAMS GOING ON ? and my friends giggled, of course. Prescribed medicines and we were back!

Well, I have never got anxiety or panic attacks before, this was first time and guys I am not at all in any stress. Chill! 

What kind of people do I like ?

Hmm..Interesting topic!

1. People who are passionate about something, attracts my attention very quickly.
2. People who are different from crowd, I mean no mediocre please! It turns me off.
3. People who are positive about life.
4. People who believe in manners, kindness and spreading love.
5. Lastly, people who know they are awesome.

I got a solution for bad moods.

Bad moods every one goes through. You have these low days where you feel quite and upset.
But then I have someone who takes away all the sorrow for sometime.
Ladies and gentlemen presenting - Rakhi Sawant.

You just have to go and watch any of her interviews and boom you start feeling good.
I am not someone who can easily criticise someone.
So, I won't say she always talks rubbish or nonsense, rather I look at it as her innocence.

Last two - three days was feeling very low and then I came across this interview.
And I am smiling now :) 

Pleasantly strange.

Something was bothering me really bad from last 3-4 days and today it was at peak. I wanted few things to happen but its just taking time and it feels I am waiting like forever. I was getting all restless. And of course I don't really share things with my family till they are out of my control. And I don't think I'll be able to sleep tonight.

As usual I get a call from my parents and same talk continues asking if everything is fine and I had dinner and all. We are about to end our conversation and suddenly my mother out of no where just tells me - "Somethings will happen only at right time. You really don't have to bother." And the phone call ends there.

Its not like I didn't know this, but may be right now I needed this and here she was. I felt as if God spoke through her tongue.

How strange is that ?
She didn't know anything of it and just gave a perfect solution.

A peaceful sleep...

कौतुक कर ना जरा

मागच्या दिवाळी च्या सुट्टीत घरी जाता आलं नाही, हॉस्टेल मधेच थांबावं लागलं कारण प्रोजेक्ट्स करायचे होते . पण काहीच मना सारखं होत नव्हतं. खूप depressed feel होत होतं, वाटायचं आपल्याने काहीच होऊ शकणार नाही. मग डिनर साठी मेस मध्ये गेले, बघते तर काय ? ती साधारण जेवण देणारी लोकं ज्यांची financial condition काही खूप छान नाहीच आहे तरीही ती लोकं किती खुश होती. त्या क्षणी वाटलं आपल्या कडे जे आहे ते त्यांच्या कळे नसून हि ती जर खुश राहू शकतात तर मी काय म्हणून दुखी आहे ?

प्रॉब्लेम काय आहे ना, आपल्या कळे जी गोष्ट असते त्याचं आपल्याला काहीच वाटत नाही आणि इथेच चूक होते. कुठे धावतोय आपण आणि कशाला ?

तुम्हाला माहिती आहे का ? जगात प्रत्येक गोष्टी चं कौतुक होऊ शकतं. अगदी तुंहाला जी गोष्ट frustrate करते तिचं सुद्धा. पण आपण ज्या जागी आता उभे आहोत, त्या गोष्टीचं कौतुक आपण कधी करतो का ?

त्याला विचारा कौतुक ज्याचं स्वप्न आहे तुम्ही जिथे उभे आहात तिथे पोहचणं आणि तुमचं काय तर म्हणे मला अजून कुठेच तरी जायचंय. अरे हो जा कि, पहा ना स्वप्न अगदी आकाशाला स्पर्श करणारी, पण जरा वेळ थांबा आणि पहा अवती-भवती , हे पण तितकच सुंदर आणि अविश्वसनीय आहे :)

जर तुम्ही कृतज्ञ नसाल तर कधीच समाधानी होऊ शकणार नाही. काय ?

Flirting is good for health

Lovelyyyyy.
Being Befikre | Carefree is excitement.

I am always ready to do whatever my mind thinks at this moment will give that adrenaline rush just for fun. The video just gives perfect display.

I keep on doing something or anything you can call Befikre.
I'll share one of those.

So, I was in Pune. And just in 2 days I located this guy, who looks stunning in those formals and has an amazing personality. I used to keep looking at him, whenever he used to pass. Ya, he was my next crush. But I am not someone who'll just be happy looking at someone, I make sure my crush knows that he is MY crush. Let's call him A.

So, ya through some friend I conveyed that to him indirectly and guess what, it turns out he is extremely shy of girls. I could see, he used to blush if I am looking at him but never made eye contact. By now the whole office knew that I am having crush on him.
But I havn't flirted with him till now. Sad! But it was difficult as he is really shy.

So, one day after office hours, when I was leaving he was still there with all his guy friends standing at far end from the main door. And I went upto the lift, I suddenly had this urge of doing something (:P)  and I turned back opened the office's door and in front of whole office I shouted his name and said "Byeeee A".
Everybody in the office was either blushing or laughing and A was just shocked as in what to react and said nothing :P
Instead all his friends said - "Byeee Rachanaaa."
Oh God! That was fun.

Till date everyone remembers that.
Trust me there are many of these and they'll never stop.

Its 0 or 1 for me

My emotions, thinkings, decisions have always been either zero or one and I completely follow the zero or one mantra. Either I am totally into something or I am totally detached, there is nothing in between.
The space between zero and one is not in my book, simple reason being its a very complicated place to be in. And I avoid complications as much as possible. Because those complications don't take you anywhere and you are just stuck and I really can't give any time or energy to get involved in them.
This sums to no energy at zero and total energy from 0.1 to 1 to go directly to 1 as a whole and that's how you give your best shot at 1.

Either you have an important space in my life which I'll make sure you know with my actions or you are just no one to me. There is nothing in between.
Either I want something really badly or I just don't want it. There is nothing like maybe or lets see.
Even my anger, that's why I say - "I rarely get angry." Very few people have seen my anger and their reaction tells me they don't want to see it again :P

This has also sometimes got me into trouble as I might think that something as being 1 but is actually less than 1, say 0.9, and then it hurts because you gave your best shot at 0.9 rather than at 1.
But I am equally good at throwing such things with 0.9 to 0.
Let it be situations, people, performance, or just everything.

Touched

Ellen DeGeneres is my LOVE (Yes in capital letters)She is on mission of making people happy, give amazing surprises, make them feel special, help them in their bad times from last 13 years, every single day.

She creates those positive, happy and heavenly vibes - exactly the way I wish this world to be. Exactly the way I want to give people happiness.

My most happy moment of the day is watching the The Ellen Show.

Apart from this, she is really funny. She makes me smile and laugh. Its common psychology after few months or may be couple of years, any form of comedy if gets repeated which naturally happens if a same person is doing it with a same format, kind of bores the audience.
But here is Ellen, this logic just don't apply to her.
Last 13 years, still the same energy, still that adorable presentation and the love!


                  

Something on the Ellen show touched me deep.
In my head, I think I am a selfless person. But today I felt so small in front of this lady and today the definition of selflessness changed for me for life.

The joy of seeing anyone happy and relieved because of you is the greatest.

Somewhere the world is so beautiful and that makes my little world beautiful :) 

A letter to 16 year old me.

Hii Rachana, hope you are doing well. There are somethings I wish I could have told you. But never the less they are your lessons now.

I wish I could have told you - 

1. Don't take life too seriously, its a game with ups and downs. Don't worry too much about the destination, sometimes things are just not in your hand. Only thing you can do is enjoy the beautiful journey.

2. Life is not - "Zindagi ka safar hai ye kaisa safar, koi samjha nahi, koi jana nahi."
Rather it is - "Ude khule aasma me khwabo ke parinde."

3. Don't take tension about really simple things. There is lot more than this in future. Atleast enjoy now.

4. Trust me. Every bloody thing happens for something good. So chill!

5. Being in your teenage obviously you feel your parents are born to hurt you. You'll laugh at this after few years as you'll know they are the best gift.

6. Spend some quality time with your family. You are going to miss that a lot in future.

7. Those tears are priceless, don't shed them on unworthy situations.

8. Try to speak more otherwise your voice will disappear. Vestigiality you see.

9. Don't fall in love, ever in your life. Its just difficult and screws you mentally. You are not meant for all that bullshit.

10. Don't invest in people. Big NO. Be it time, emotions, whatever. Again we don't need that bullshit.

11. I know, you very badly wanted to be a Guy, but guess what God has made you a girl. Try a bit to behave like a girl. I mean thoda sa delicate and all. What ? No ? Ok fine, forget it. I love you the way you are.

12. Health man health. Please take care of your health man. You are very irresponsible as far your health is concerned. You make your body suffer a lot. That's lot of atyachar. Not good.

13. Don't ever think of ending your life. Just STUPID! 

14. Dream the impossible and make it happen. Sacrifice whatever comes in between as my only wish is to see that one beautiful day.

15. Don't try to keep everyone happy. You'll end up hurting yourself. You are not God man. Let God do his job and you do yours.

16. Let people go. If they come back, they are all yours, if not, they were never yours. And that should be perfectly fine.

Otherwise you are perfect. 20 year old Rachana feels proud of you and loves you a lot.

Dear 16 year old, do you want to know how your 20 year old looks ?
More confident, risk taker, fearless, very expressive, stronger than ever, looks cute nowadays, takes stand, damn focused, doesn't give a damn what others are thinking, believes in the power of the Universe, got some good friends and few stalkers too, happily single with lots of crushes.

What has not changed ?

Still never complains, still tries to make people happy, still always ready to help and still in love with you.

This is strength.

She defines the strength a woman has.
Hats off O P Jaisha.


@13:05

बरं वाटलं

आज असाच एक होम मिनिस्टर चा एपिसोड पाहत होते, त्यात एक नवीन जोडपं आलं होतं.
त्यांचं नुकतच love marriage झालं होतं. ह्या जोडप्याचं वैशिष्ठ म्हणझे मुलगी मराठी आणि मुलगा ख्रिस्ती (Christian).

बांदेकर मुलीच्या वडिलांना विचारतात तुम्ही कसकाय लावून दिलं ह्यांचं लग्न जेव्हा मुलगा ख्रिस्ती आहे ?
त्यावर त्यांचं उत्तर होतं - 
" मी धर्म - जात असल्या कशातही मानत नाही , कारण मी एक शिक्षक आहे .
 दोघे हि एकमेकांच्या अनुरूप आहेत ते महत्वाचं वाटतं मला. "

किती मोठी गोष्ट आहे हि .
As a  profession  कोणी हि शिक्षक होऊ शकतं हो, पण विचाराने आणि कृतीने जर शिक्षक होता आलं तर जग खूप सुंदर होईल .
हो ना ?

ऐकून फार बरं वाटलं!

That was sweet :)

Do din se man thoda sa sad tha. Thakan si thi, physical nahi mental, vo hota hai na jab samajh nahi aa raha hota kya ho raha hai ? bas dimaag ke ghode dodao jitni dur tak ho sake utni dur tak, par thak har ke vapis jaha se shuruwat ki thi wahi aakar theherna padta hai.

Aur vo log hote hai na jinke chehre pe saaf nazar aata hai unke dimaag me kya chal raha hai, me unhi idiots me se ek idiot hu. Mera chehra mere dil ka aayna hai, sab kuch nazar aa jayega.

Bank gayi thi, paise transfer karne they. 

Bank ka issue kuch mahine pehle ho gaya tha, jiske silsile me Papa aakar bank manager se mile they. Toh basically vo mujhe jante they. Ab jante they matlab aisa nahi hai, ki jab bhi me bank jau me unse baat karti hu, nope! Bas jante they.

Aaj jab Cash counter pe khadi thi, maine toh unke pas dekha tak nahi tha.

Anyways, jaise bataya, pareshani aur udasi mere chehre pe ab bhi thi. Par kisko kya padi hai ?

Actually mujhe bhi kuch nahi padi hai, kyuki ye mere liye normal hai. Mahine ke 30 dino me me kuch 12 din hi khush dikhti hu, baki sare din aisa hi kuch haal hota hai, toh hua na normal ? Ye mera ek adbhoot talent hai!

Thodi der baad college ka aur dusra kam kar ke hostel vapis aayi, ghar se missed calls they. Vapis call kiya. Maine mummy ko bataya - "Paise kar diye transfer."

Is par unka question aata hai - "Tu thik toh hai na ?"

Ab mera dimaag shuru -  Achanak aise kyu bhala pucha ? 

"Haan."

Mummy - "Kya kar rahi thi ?"

                 "Tabiyat toh thik hai na ?"

                 "Koi problem hai ?"

"Arrey. Nahi..kyu ?"

Mummy - "Tumhare college se bank manager ka call aaya tha Papa ko, vo bata rahe they tu bahot pareshan aur sad lag rahi thi. Apni beti ka khayal rakho."

I had that aww wale tears in my eyes listening to this :) 

Kaise na ? 

He is the manager, vo pura time busy rehte hai, phir bhi unhone mujhe notice kiya aur time nikal ke papa ko call bhi kiya. Ye logo ki khubsoorti na mujhe sabse jyada khush karti hai.

Ye sunke sari thakan ud gayi.

Mujhe jab koi insaan accha lagta hai, me unko duaye deti hu.

Manager uncle aur unki family humesha khush rahe. Dil se :)